FRIENDS

Friendship is not about "I m sorry " its about "abbe teri galti hai "

Friendship is not about "I m there for u " its about "kahan marr gaya saale "

Friendship is not about "I understand " its about "sab teri wajah se hua manhus"

Friendship is not about "I care for u " its about "kamino tumhe chhod ke kahan jaunga "

Friendship is not about "I m happy for ur success" its about "chal party de saale"

Friendship is not about "I love that girl" its about "saalo izzat se dekho tumhari bhabhi hain "

Aab dekh kya rahe ho, reply kar "Kanjoos"

हौसला

हम आँखें देखकर हर शख़्स को पहचान लेते है

बिना जाने ही अकसर हम बहुत कुछ जान लेते हैं

वही उतरा हुआ चहरा, वही कुछ सोचती आँखें

तुझ ऐ ज़िंदगी हम दूर से पहचान लेते हैं

ज़रा सा सर उठाता है खुशी का जब कोई अंकुर

घने बरगद ग़मों के इसपे सीना तान लेते हैं

लोगो की किसी भी बात का गुस्सा नहीं करते

और हम हर हाल में अपनी ही ग़लती मान लेते हैं

ये जलवे हुस्न के का़तिल ख़याल इनसे बचे रहना

ये दिल लेते हैं पहले और फिर ये जान लेते हैं

हजारों इम्तिहां हम दे चुके पर देखना है ये

नया इक इम्तिहां अब कौन सा भगवान लेते हैं

जो करनी हो मोहब्बत...

जो करनी हो मोहब्बत तो ,बेवजा करना

और जो हो जाये तो डूबकर ,रजा करना

मै करूँ गलतियाँ जो मचल जाओ तुम

उसका दीदार करना और ,मजा करना

तुम्हारी खैरियत मेरी जिम्मेदारी रहेगी

मेरे लिए अपनी ही अजां अदा करना

रूठना तो रोना गले लगकर, मना लूँगा

दूर होकर दिल-ऐ-नादान को ना सजा करना

कभी हो मौका तो आ जाना और लिपट जाना

रस्म-ओ-रिवाज से एक बार दगा करना

गर ना रहूँ तुम्हारी ज़िन्दगी में मैं

मुस्कुराना और मोहब्बत का फ़र्ज़ अदा करना

अगर ऐसे ही छोड़ जाऊँ दुनिया मै

कफ़न में आँचल रख मुझे इस दुनिया से विदा करना

मैं तेरे साथ - साथ हु..

देखो तो एक सवाल हूँ ।

समझो तो , मैं ही जवाब हूँ ।।

उलझी हुई,इस ज़िन्दगी में।

सुलझा हुआ-सा तार हूँ।।

बैठे है दूर तुमसे , गम न करो ।

मैं ही तो बस, तेरे पास हूँ।।

जज्वात के समन्दर में डूबे है।

पर मैं ही , उगता हुआ गुलाब हूँ

रोशनी से भर गया सारा समा ।

पर मैं तो, खुद ही में जलता हुआ चिराग हूँ ।।

जैसे भी ज़िन्दगी है, दुश्मन तो नही है।

तन्हा-सा हूँ मगर, मैं इसका सच्चा यार हूँ।।

जलते हुए जज्वात , आंखो से बुझेंगे ।

बुझ कर भी न बुझी, मैं ऐसी आग हूँ।।

कुछ रंग तो दिखाएगी , जो चल रहा है अब।

खामोशी के लबो पर छिड़ा , में वक्त का मीठा राग हूँ।।

खुद को न समझना, कभी तन्हा और अकेला।

ज़िन्दगी के हर कदम पर , मैं तेरे साथ - साथ हूँ।।

बीतें लम्हे...

ज़िन्दगी के कुछ ख्वाब अधूरे ही रह गए।

जो थे साथ वो सब चले गए।

जाना चाहता है ये दिल वापस।

पर दिल के अरमान इन अश्को के साथ बह गए॥

याद आती है उन पलो की।

जो अपनों के साथ गुज़ारा करते थे।

याद में बेजार हो रहा था ये दिल।

पर कम्बखत ये आंसू भी हमें दगा दे गए॥

दिल के इक कोने से आवाज़ उठी।

की लो अब कभी भी हम आंसू न बहायेंगे।

सहेज कर रखा है उन यादों को अपने दिल में।

उन यादों की खातिर हम सदा मुस्कुराएंगे॥

अब हम यहाँ रहे या वहा रहे!!!!!!!!

अपने आप में सिमट कर रहें
कि आपे से बाहर हो कर रहें !!

बड़े दिनों से सोच रहे हैं कि
हम अब यहाँ रहें या वहाँ रहें !!

दुनिया कोई दुश्मन तो नहीं
दुनिया को आख़िर क्या कहें !!

कुछ चट्टान हैं कुछ खाईयां
जीवन दरिया है बहते ही रहे !!

कुछ कहने की हसरत तो है
अब उसके मुंह पर क्या कहें !!

जो दिखायी तक भी नहीं देता
खुदा के लिए हम चुप ही रहें !!

बस इक मेहमां हैं हम "दोस्त "
इस रिश्ते में हम तमीज से ही रहें !!

मगर तेरा ख्वाब कोई दूसरा है......

क्या बताये हम कि क्या हुआ है
सुलगता हुवा दिल का आशिया है।

कही दम घुट ना जाए सीने मे
हर एक पल धुंआ ही धुंआ है।

वादों - कसमो की लाज रखनी है
हम कैसे कह दे कि तू बेवफा है।

मुझको ना यादो पे यकी है अब
ख्यालो से ही बस अब गिला है।

मेरे दिल मे तेरी चाहत है अब भी
मगर तेरा ख्वाब कोई दूसरा है।।

मैं तुम्हारी परछाई तो हूँ

मेरे हाथ में तुम्हारा हाथ नहीं

पर धुप में तुम्हारी परछाई तो हूँ

मै कभी तुम्हारे साथ नहीं

पर अनदेखी तन्हाई तो हूँ

मै वफ़ा नहीं हूँ प्यार नहीं

कुछ ना सही हरजाई तो हूँ

मै आगाज़ नहीं अंजाम नहीं

रोती आँखों की रुसवाई तो हूँ

तुम हो निरा अकेली दुनिया में

पर मै तुम्हारी परछाई तो हूँ ,,,

मेरी तन्हाई

मेरे पास है बस मेरी तन्हाई

बस इसी ने ही दोस्ती निभाई।

जब छोड रही थी मुझे मेरी परछाई

तब इसी ने आकार हिम्मत बंधाई।।

है पास मेरे मेरी तन्हाई

फिर किसी से रखु कैसी रुसवाई ।

चन्द लम्हो में सारा जहाँ लुट गया

एक दौलत बची वो थी तनहाई।।

भूल बैठे थे हम इस हसी दोस्त को

पर चुप रह कर भी जो साथ चली वो थी मेरी तन्हाई ।

भरोसा है मुझे जब कोई साथ न होगा

तब साथ देगी मेरा मेरी तनहाई।।

तू अगर साथ है तो फिर कैसी रुसवाई

बस एक तू ही मेरे मन को है भाई।

संग चलती है मेरे खामोश रह कर

किस कदर शुक्रिया मैं करु अदा मेरी तनहाई ।।

बारिश

रुत आये जो बारिश की

कितना प्यारा लगता है,

ये मौसम भीगा-भीगा सा

कितना न्यारा लगता है,

संग तेरे सजना मुझको

भीगना अच्छा लगता है,

हो गर्मी का या पतझड़ का

सब बारिश का सा लगता है,

जब पास मेरे तुम होते हो

हर मौसम अच्छा लगता है,

तुझ संग खेलू बूंदों से मैं

हल्की-हल्की सी बारिश में,

लेकर हाथों में हाथ झूमना

कितना सुहाना लगता है,

भीगना रिम-झिम बारिश में

कितना प्यारा लगता है,

ये मौसम भीगा-भीगा सा

सबसे न्यारा लगता है,

रुत आये जो बारिश की

मुझे सबसे प्यारा लगता है

दर्द

महोब्बत है अजीब, आंखो में आँसू सजाये बैठे है ।

देवता नही है, फिर भी हम सपनो का मंदिर सजाये बैठे है । ।

किस्मत की बात है, दुनिया से खुद को छुपायें बैठे है ।

कैसे बया करे, उन पर हम अपना सब कुछ लुटाये बैठे है । ।

बेरहम है ये दुनिया, फिर भी आस जमाये बैठे है ।

वो दूर है तो क्या, उनसे दिल से दिल लगाये बैठे है । ।

वो लौट कर न आयेगे, फिर भी नज़रे बिछाये बैठे है ।

उनसे मिलने की ललक में, सब कुछ भुलाये बैठे है । ।

आंखो से आँसू इतने गिरे , की समन्दर बनाये बैठे है ।

वो बेरहम है पता है मुझको , फिर भी तेरे सजदे में सर को झुकाये बैठे है । ।

दीदार तो कर लू .....

बिखरा के जुल्फे फ़िर शाम कर दे

कुछ हसी पल आज मेरे नाम कर दे

मुद्दत से बहता है ये दरिया बनकर

अपने होठो से छूकर इसे जाम कर दे

अब तलक छुपा रखा है जो पलकों मे

उठाकर परदा जलवा- ऐ-आम कर दे

कैद कर मुझे अपने हुस्न की जंजीर से

मुझे भी आज तू अपना गुलाम कर दे

जिंदगी की तलाश...

जो है अंदर वो बाहर क्यू नही आता ,

है तो दोस्त हज़ारो , पर क्यू में हमेशा अपने को अकेला पाता !

है ना कोई कमी , ना कोई मजबूरी ,

पर अब नही सही जाते मुझसे ये दूरी !

मुझे नही पता प्यार क्या होता है,

मुझे नही पाता इश्क़ क्या होता है ;

पर क्या करू ये दिल हमेशा तेरी याद में रोता हैं !

नही मालूम की तुझसे कभी मिल पाऊँगा ,

नही मालूम की तुझसे कभी कह पाऊँगा ,

बस इतना पता है की तुझे हमेशा खुश चाहूँगा !

एक अरसा हुआ तुझसे मुलाकात हुए ,

अब तो सिर्फ़ तेरी तस्वीर से बात करता हूँ ,

सोचता हूँ तू उसमे सुन लेगी ,

इसलिए दिन रात अब उससे ही इज़हार करता हूँ!

उड़ने दो परिंदे को.....

दर्द क्या होता है बताएँगे किसी रोज़

कमाल की ग़ज़ल सुनायेंगे तुम्हे किसी रोज़

थी उनकी जिद मैं जाऊं उनको मानाने

मुझको था वहम की बुलाएँगे वो हमें किसी रोज़

कभी भी मैंने सोचा ही नही था

वो इतना मेरे दिल को दुखायेंगे किसी रोज़

हर रोज़ आईने से यही पूछता हूँ मैं

क्या रुख पर तबस्सुम सजायेंगे किसी रोज़

उड़ने दो परिंदों को आजाद फिजाओं में

हमारे होंगे तो लौट आयेंगे वो किसी रोज़

For My Best Friend...............

You Are My Friend And I Hope

You Know That's True.

No Matter What Happens

I Will Stand Right By You.

In Times Of Grief

I Will Give You Belief.

I'll Be There For You

Whenever You Are In Need.

To Lend You A Hand

To Do A Good Deed.

So Just Call On Me When

You Need Me, My Friend!

I Will Always Be There For You

Right To The End!

Can Men and Women be 'Just Friends'?

What I'm saying is - and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form - is that men and women can't be friends because the sex part always

Men are from Mars and Women from Venus

gets in the way.”
...Harry Burns in When Harry Met Sally

Agreed that men are from Mars and women from Venus, agreed that there is friction between the two and agreed that sexual tension and romantic feelings are bound to creep-in between, but can’t the two ever be ‘just friends’? The concept of platonic friendship that arose and was largely talked and written from the time of Greek Philosopher Plato still remains as unclear and confusing as ever.

From Adam and Eve down to the present generation, opposite sexes are always ‘meant’ to draw each other, love, fight, produce babies and that’s about it. Or is it? The notion that the two cannot be plain friends seems to be changing, but the question is to what extent?

With women becoming more career oriented and independent, ‘cross-sex’ social and workplace friendships are definitely on the rise. Even the school time or college friendships are known to become stronger with passing time (that is if they don’t blossom into love). When in a group, men and women mix with one another freely, hang-out, share jokes and get along just fine, but when it comes to one-on-one friendship, it surely does get a wee bit tricky. After all there is but a thin line between friendship and love...

Opposites attract

Yes, even in a friendship it’s the opposite traits that attract men and women to get close. It is a common fact that women love to talk. When in their girl-gang, they talk (read gossip) endlessly about everything under the sun - from make-up to men, from career choices to sexual fantasies, from family to friends and from reel stars to real life issues.

Now turn to men and you’ll find most of them glued to the TV watching their favourite sport, downing bottles of beer, drooling over a sexy woman on a magazine cover or wondering why women are so difficult to understand. This may not be all that men and women do, but it surely does come close. So when men and women mingle as friends they grab a fair share of what they miss out in their same-sex circles.

“I have a couple of guy friends that I am really close to and there is nothing hanky-panky. I guess I like being with them because they are more fun. It’s more chilled out and relaxed. I can say whatever without wondering if it’s going to hurt someone. You know with just girls there is too much ‘khit-khit’ over nothing”, says Garima Sarkar, an engineer. She goes onto add, “Women can sometimes be very bitchy and says things behind your back but men say it on your face. That’s much better.”

She’s not the only one. Shruti Bhatnagar who works in the marketing wing of an MNC agrees, “My guy friend Amit is almost like a relief from my female friends. No ‘rona dhona’, no issues over small matters, just good fun. I know if I pull his leg or joke around, he won’t sulk about it and yes, he’s never judgmental”. Shruti goes on to add, “With him I can bring out my fun side. I can crack dirty jokes, laugh at Hindi abuses, talk about sports etc, it’s much more easy going.”

Ask any girl who has consoled a heart-broken friend over endless phone calls and she’ll tell you that female friends do come with lots of emotional baggage and being with a guy acts as a breath of fresh air at times. The case with men isn’t too different either.

“When I have a fight at home or a problem at work place, it’s difficult to talk to my male pals about it, as I feel they’ll think of me as a sissy. But my friend Archana is a real sweetheart. She listens to it all and is always ready with advice without making me feel small”, says banker Rohit Kapur. He adds cheekily, “Plus, she always helps me out when trying to get a date with someone; trust me she always knows what I should say and do”. Shruti sums it up by saying, “At the end of the day, it’s all about compatibility. If you can click with people it doesn’t matter what sex they belong to.”

Love thy friend?

While what Shruti says is quite valid, the thought of the whole male-female chemistry igniting is always thought lurking at the back of one’s mind. Take for instance the story of Monica and Chandler from the popular American series Friends . Starting off as good friends, their intimacy eventually was shown maturing into love.

Look closer home and you’ll find endless Bollywood movies that show childhood ‘just good friends’ growing up to be lovers. If a movie like Dil to Pagal Hai tried to prove that a man and woman can be just friends, the movie Kuch Kuch Hota Hai proved otherwise with King Khan eventually falling in love with ‘friend’ Kajol. If movies and serials are a reflection of our societal trends then this surely does reflect something.

“Remember Maine Pyar Kiya ? Even though the two characters claimed to be just friends, didn’t they end up falling in love? I think it’s quite common; my best friend fell in love with his school time girl pal and they are married now”, says management student Karan Sharma. Garima agrees, “One can’t ignore that possibility at all. What also happens is that one of the two falls for the other, but it shouldn’t affect the friendship, which it normally does in most cases.”

Shikha Bhasin, a final year Delhi University student however feels differently, “I have had a male friend for 16 years now and we are very close, but neither of us can imagine the other in a romantic way at all. It’s so repulsive to think that way. We talk about sex and romance very freely without any sub-conscious attraction to one another”. She adds, “It’s silly to fall for a friend as then you’ll lose the compatibility and issues will start cropping up. A cross-sexfriendship is always more fun and please let it stay that way, don’t bring romance in it to spoil it all.”

Wagging tongues

Maybe one shouldn’t spoil a good friendship by bringing romance in it or maybe good friendships turn into good romances, but questions arise only when other people start talking. What happens to an otherwise healthy platonic friendship when tongues start wagging and suspicions about the ‘real’ sense of that friendship do the rounds?

“Typically stuff like this is bound to happen”, says Garima. But she is quick to add, “What people say shouldn’t affect your friendship. I know if I am clean and so is my guy friends then it doesn’t matter what any Tom, Dick and Harry thinks.” But some relationships do go sour under such external pressure.

Shruti shares an example. “This female colleague of mine broke-up with her really good male friend just because people at work were talking crap and it was getting really embarrassing for her.” Ask Shruti what she would have done in that case and pat comes the reply. “I would never give a damn to what some backward people think. It’s so common to have a cross-sex friend, what’s wrong in that?”

Kapur feels the same. “People love to dig at such relationships. A lot of people probed into my friendship with Archana too, but we don’t care, in fact we laugh it off.”

Of course, it is easier to ‘laugh it off’ when you are single. But what happens when a cross-sex friendship develops between married people. Does it become a root cause for jealousy and broken homes?

“I’m sure though my friends had a friendship that changed into love, they will not tolerate their spouse having a close cross-sex friendship”, says Sharma. He doesn’t fail to add, “if my guy friend has a new female friend and especially a good looking one then his wife will surely get jealous and won’t see anything platonic in that!” he adds mischievously.

So be it opposite natures that attract men and women to be friends or just plain compatibility, cross-sex friendships do happen and most times both friends cherish it more than a same-sex one. Though even today eye-brows do rise when a girl hugs her guy friend and falling in love with your ‘friend’ is a possibility, there is still a lot to look forward to when two people from the opposite sex become ‘just friends’.

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The excerpt is being taken from the article "Can Men and Women be "Just Friends" published in Times of India.

Five awkward friendship moments: What do you say when…?

Every friendship, even the best of them, has predictable peaks and valleys---but the low points can still threaten even a solid friendship. Perhaps, the friend who you were sure would be your best friend forever (BFF) is beginning to feel intrusive and grating on your nerves. Or your BFF has disappointed you, let you down big-time, or displayed an inexcusable lapse in judgment. It may even be something more subtle, yet equally serious: You’re seeing each other less and less, and you simply feel like you are drifting apart. What do you say?
Many close friendships on the brink of disaster can be salvaged if friends are able to communicate openly and tell each other what’s bothering them. But it’s normal to feel awkward and tongue-tied about speaking up and talking about uncomfortable things; we all find it difficult to find the right words to say at the right time.

Some of the common question and responses on "How to Handle some of these Awkward but
Common friendship scenarios are:

1) …your friend talks about herself too much and is beginning to bore you to tears
It depends on how close you are and how much you get out of the relationship otherwise. If you’re not that close, the answer is, “Take her in small doses.” Maybe you have to see or talk to her less often and/or limit the amount of time you spend on each encounter. On the other hand, if she’s your best friend and you want to protect the relationship, you need to talk about this or the annoyance can build and lead to an explosion. You might try something like, “Our friendship is really important to me, but I feel our conversations are never about me and my life. I miss the back and forth we used to have.” Then keep quiet and let her respond. She may not realize she’s become so self-involved, or there may be some reason for her behavior that you’re not aware of.

2) … your friend asks too many personal or probing questions and is making you feel like you are on the witness stand
First try humor, as in “Asked and answered, counselor.” This may help her realize she’s overdoing it. But if she continues to behave this way and your relationship is close, you have to be honest. You might say, “Hey, you’re asking a lot of questions. I don’t like it. Back off.”

3) …your friend has undermined you at work
First find out whether it’s intentional. Did she mean to harm you? If the answer is no, you can still address the situation with "I know you didn’t mean to, but you messed up my client meeting.” Deliberate undermining is another matter. In that case, the friendship is over. I’d confront the person and say, “I know what you did.”

4) …your friend always seems to be “booked” and inaccessible, and you feel like you are drifting apart
This can happen when one friend gets married or has a baby or gets a big promotion—and the other friend does not. One has a new life style and/or new time consuming responsibilities and obligations. It can take time for both of you to figure out how to adjust. Tell the person, “I feel we hardly get together anymore and I’m afraid we’re disconnecting.” She may be as unhappy about it as you are. A conversation can lead to brainstorming solutions. It’s up to her to make an effort, however, because you’ve been trying to get together all along.

5) …your friend has had an irreconcilable tiff with a mutual friend
Stay out of it. If she wants you on her side, tell her, “You’re both my friends and I don’t want to be part of this. It’s strictly between the two of you.” Don’t let either of them drag you into their fight, although they will probably try.

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the excerpt is taken from the book "Toxic Friends/True Friends: How Your Friends Can Make Or Break Your Health" by Florence Isaacs....

A JOKER....

Have you seen a joker?

A person who makes people laugh with his silliest acts. Either he laughs or cries people laughs at him. So does that mean that he doesn’t have any feelings? He just has one motto in his life and that is to make people laugh. But does anyone tried to know the inner feeling of Joker. In today’s world many of us live the life of Joker. We just want to make people laugh by our silliest acts. And it doesn’t matter to them that why we are doing it. We just want to make our dear ones happy. And if this takes to do the things we don’t even like, we do it. But why we do it is the big question?

Many a times we feel that our people are getting bored with our actual self. And so we try to be the one that we are not actually. But does that solve our purpose? I suppose on the short term basis the answer is “Yes” but if we see it in a long term perspective I think our people tend to develop the kind of feeling in which they feel that we are the people who cannot be sad. And one day when we are sad, they say. “Is this the same person or the person is changed”. This is I suppose is the hardest fact of life. We started being perceived as someone else and then one day we lose our actual self identity. We get changed and then we start living in a different world which is actually not ours but is the perceived thought of our people.

I suppose our people like what we are and not what they have made us. So try to come out of the false world and start living in the actual world in which we have our own actual identity. It’s good to be joker so as to make people happy but people also have to understand that a Joker also have its feelings and needs someone to make him laugh. He actually wants someone to play ‘Joker’ for him/her. I think that sharing your sad part will never weaken the sadness but it is when we try to weaken people sadness with the happiness. I always want to be happy and it will only be possible if people associated with us will be happy. It will only happen if our world will be happy.

So now I say this that, “I am proud to be a Joker”, but sometimes this joker also needs a Joker.

A Dream..........

Laying underneath the stars,

On a warm silent night.

Your arms are wrapped around me,

And everything feels right.

You kiss me sweet and softly,

I feel your warm gentle touch,

You help me feel protected

Under the sweet night sky rush.

My world before me is perfect.

There's nowhere else I want to be,

Except laying underneath the stars

Hand in hand, you and me.

Just when everything is perfect,

And you seem so delicately sweet,

A rush of wind comes past me

As I'm swept beneath my feet.

Nothing could be more right,

There's nowhere else I want to be.

Let's take a walk my only love,

Hand in hand, you and me.

The Path to Nowhere....

When a person has been moving passionately on a path for a long period of time, it becomes very difficult for the person to admit that all that has been done was wrong. It takes more courage and a lesser ego than most people have. It is far easier to continue in the same direction, dismissing all doubts. Creating a place for such a person to give up what he/she did without feeling overly humiliated can reinvent the process of recovery.

It is a different story when a large group of people join hands to undermine existing authority. Perceived exploitation cannot by itself move large masses over extended periods, unless the masses are capable of reasoning. Lack of education or an uneducated society go a long way in obstructing the flow of reason. Sometimes though, the exploitation are not perceived, but real. When people have almost nothing to lose, they have almost no reason to conform to the demands of established authority. Such problems have a disturbing property: they don't go away. They stay, and they accumulate over decades and centuries. Millions suffer, millions die. Count to a million. And all because we are not willing to stop and say: 'I am sorry that I hurt you. My bad. What would you like me to do to make it up to you?'

Past Continues to Haunt............

I've always found it tough to deal with my past or with the pasts of "you-know-who"... Holding on to it. Forgetting it is the present that matters. And why crucify anybody for their past, can it be helped now... But somewhere down I've been so incapable of handling the whole notion of past... Sometimes continuing to believe that others would love to have had things to have worked out in a different way than what their present is... Even though I might have moved on.. Working out the different permutations and combinations, what if they'd had things going would she still find herself in the same place? And why on earth do I go digging old buried remains, reading rereading mails, seeing her pics and the works and expecting I'd take it in and not get affected... The past can never really be full of happy memories... and the worst of all I've in many ways become a self confessed person, that sometime I feel vulnerable otherwise why the hell can't I just let go of things... Let things be... why hold people responsible for their choices in the past, why work on the 'what ifs' when they are no where there... Hoping I'd grow beyond it all... pull the blinds on certain aspects of it all... And probably just grow up a lil...

The Right Path..

How many of us still think that we are stucked up in the wrong path. Many of us regret that if we have chosen the other way, thing would have been different. Let me tell you one thing. Before we decide to go anywhere, we must first choose our destination. To some this may be easy. Some people are born with the ambition to become a doctor or an engineer or an astronaut. But there are many others who find their path as they travel down life’s winding streets. There are also those, who create their own path. Whichever class you belong to, a goal is always important.

Accept, Adapt and Achieve. These are the three watchwords for success in today’s ever changing situation. Sticking to goal is vital. But knowing when to change them requiring wisdom and humility. The realization that our goals need to be modified may not be very easy to accept. To change the path that we’ve been following for ages takes courage.

It’s true – you are unique, you are special. But that doesn’t mean you can’t benefit from what others have to offer. Simply relying on your personal experiences may not be enough. You can always learn from the experience of others. Take a page from someone’s book and write it in your own handwriting in your book of life. Keep your identity, follow your own dream, but a little help does not make your success somebody else’s.

But there is something more difficult than saying ‘Yes’ – the ability to say ‘No’ at the right time. This is what draws the line between being an achiever and an underdog. You need to set your priorities right. Everyone has individual ideas of what’s important and what’s not. It’s true that your priorities shouldn’t be guided purely by external forces, but at the same time, you should strike a balance so you don’t end up with selfish ideals. You have to decide what it is that you’re willing to give up for right reason and what it is that you’d defend with everything that you have.

प्यार का एहसास.........

प्यार का ये एहसास कुछ ख़ास है।
सब कुछ दूर है, सब कुछ पास है।
अब तक तनहा था , अब यादों में भी उसका साथ है।
पल में खुश था, पल में उदास है॥


अब महफिलों में जाना भाता नही है।
दोस्तों का साथ रास आता नही है।
घूमना फिरना अब गुनाह लगता है।
उसकी याद में दिल फना लगता है॥

उसकी सादगी अब गहना लगती है।
बाकी सब सहना अब मुश्किल लगता है।
रात की गहरायिओं बहना अच्छा लगता है।
उसकी याद में रहना अच्छा लगता है॥

जब वो पास नही होती है।
उससे बात करने को दिल मचल जाता है।
जब वो सामने आती है।
कम्बखत ये होंठ सिल जाते है॥

ये दिल अब जज्बाती लगता है।
बाकी सब बेबाती लगता है।
अकेलापन अपना साथी लगता है।
बाकी सब बर्बादी लगता है॥

The Cup of Coffee

It was a quaint little café that was surrounded by that aroma of freshly brewed coffee. It was this, more than anything else, which caused the two of them to come in. They were the best of friends, deeply in love.

He looked into her eyes when he talked to her, because the subject they were talking about was something that both of them were quite passionate about. I don't really remember what they were talking about, but that's quite alright. What matters more, is the way they talked, and the way the rest of the world saw them talk. At that moment, for the two of them, nothing else existed, except each other's words, and the silent aroma of the brewing coffee nearby.

The waitress wasn't very sure whether she should interrupt them at that moment or not, so she waited a while. Giving them a few moments together, she finally moved closer to the table to take their order. It was quite a typical order during that season – two cups of cappuccino, and one chocolate brownie, served with a dollop of ice – cream. As she walked back to the counter, she couldn't stop smiling to herself for the two of them. They were still talking between themselves, without a care in the world…

The two cups of coffee and the chocolate brownie came as ordered. They didn't notice that the waitress was looking between the two of them, and smiling to herself while she served them the coffee. They picked up their cups and relished a sip each. They shared the chocolate brownie, even the ice – cream that came with it. The waitress couldn't help but look at them together, feeling happy for them. At the end of the delicious brownie and the mesmerizing coffee, they got up from their seats and advanced towards the counter where he paid for what they had ordered.

"Dude, I'm so glad I came with you here. Thanks for being my best friend, man!" she said to him

"Anytime, Dudette. Sorry for rushing like this, but my girlfriend's waiting outside," he said with a smile, and they walked out of that quaint little café, still talking like before. Outside, they high fived and walked their separate ways.

"Damn, they sure fooled us!" said one empty coffee cup to another.

A Silent Love......

From the very Beginning, the girl's family objected strongly on her dating this guy. Saying that it has got to do with family background & that the girl will have to suffer for the rest of her life if she were to be with him.

Due to family's pressure, the couple quarrel very often. Though the girl love the guy deeply, but she always ask him: "How deep is your love for me?"

As the guy is not good with his words, this often cause the girl to be very upset. With that & the family's pressure, the girl often vent her anger on him. As for him, he only endure it in silence.

After a couple of years, the guy finally graduated & decided to further his studies in overseas. Before leaving, he proposed to the girl: "I'm not very good with words. But all I know is that I love you. If you allow me, I will take care of you for the rest of my life. As for your family, I'll try my best to talk them round. Will you marry me?"

The girl agreed, & with the guy's determination, the family finally gave in & agreed to let them get married. So before he leave, they got engaged.

The girl went out to the working society, whereas the guy was overseas, continuing his studies. They sent their love through emails & phone calls. Though it's hard, but both never thought of giving up.

One day, while the girl was on her way to work, she was knocked down by a car that lost control. When she woke up, she saw her parents beside her bed. She realised that she was badly injured. Seeing her mum crying, she wanted to comfort her. But she realized that all that could come out of her mouth was just a sigh. She has lost her voice......

The doctors says that the impact on her brain has caused her to lose her voice.. Listening to her parents' comfort, but with nothing coming out from her, she broke down.

During the stay in hospital, besides silence cry,.....it's still just silence cry that companied her. Upon reaching home, everything seems to be the same. Except for the ringing tone of the phone. Which pierced into her heart everytime it rang. She does not wish to let the guy know. & not wanting to be a burden to him, she wrote a letter to him saying that she does not wish to wait any longer.

With that, she sent the ring back to him. In return, the guy sent millions & millions of reply, and countless of phonecalls,. . All the girl could do, besides crying, is still crying....

The parents decided to move away, hoping that she could eventually forget everything & be happy.

With a new environment, the girl learn sign language & started a new life. Telling herself everyday that she must forget the guy. One day, her friend came & told her that he's back. She asked her friend not to let him know what happened to her. Since then, there wasn't anymore news of him.

A year has passed & her friend came with an envelope, containing an invitation card for the guy's wedding. The girl was shattered. When she open the letter, she saw her name in it instead.

When she was about to ask her friend what's going on, she saw the guy standing in front of her. He used sign language telling her "I've spent a year's time to learn sign language. Just to let you know that I've not forgotten our promise. Let me have the chance to be your voice. I Love You. With that, he slipped the ring back into her finger. The girl finally smiled.

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Courtsey - Sukriti, I couldn't resist myself to keep this story in my blog as I think that it is one of the most beautiful and meaningful story I ever came across. Thanks Sukriti for providing me such a wonderful story. :)